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“ The man who gives way to anger or hatred or any other passion can’t work; he only breaks himself into pieces and does nothing practical. It is the calm, forgiving, equable, well-balanced mind that does the greatest amount of work.” It was well quoted by Swami Vivekananda. I strongly believe in his words that anger is a destroyer only and it can never bring peace in life. In fact, we all know what anger is, and we’ve all felt it: whether as a fleeting annoyance or as full-fledged rage.

We have a number of relations in life that always come with responsibilities at different stages. In order to fulfil these responsibilities, we need to be calm and patient all the time else we lose control over our life first and then our relations. Due to several dissatisfactory outcomes of our hasty decisions, we become short-tempered or even ill-tempered at times.

We are least bothered about the feelings of others whom we misunderstand due to lack of patience resulting in losing that relation gradually. And I bet that it has been experienced by almost everyone in life at least once where we show outbursts unnecessarily. We must realise that we are not the slaves to our anger. In fact, we must learn to slave it to be an ideal person. How can we expect respect if we can’t respect others?

I agree that sometimes anger is a completely normal human emotion. But when it gets out of control it turns destructive, it leads to the problem at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. It can make you feel ashamed of yourself before others due to your rash decisions and make you feel helpless when you realize your mistake. It stops you to look at the positive perspective of the facts, hence, leaving you with no option else regretting your actions for the rest of your life. It only brings dissatisfaction and loneliness if you do not keep it under control.

There are many different ways to destroy unnecessary anger issues that will definitely help to maintain peace of mind. These measures must be adopted by humans at the right time before anger destroys them. But to learn anger management, how can one forget to learn its benefits, so lets read about those benefits-

 Socialization Skills– Managing anger comes with improved life skills. It allows expressing thoughts and ideas without shouting and yelling. It fills us with the willingness to participate in group discussions without hesitation in an acceptable manner.

Sense Of Responsibility- It helps to trust others in all possible challenging times of life and hence strengthens our minds to eventually feel responsible. It makes your relations in life sweet as well as strong and you feel an extraordinary bond with others because you start understanding them. You become a responsible person when you learn to value your relations.

Reduces Mental Illness- It is effective in treating anxiety and depression. It helps to assess experiences and ideas and make us more aware of what triggers an angry emotion. We learn different strategies to divert unpleasant behaviours to more productive activities in order to improve our life.

Brings Happiness – Due to the busy lifestyle, many people remain unhappy and angry. The loss of a loved one, unemployment, limited social activities, and uncertain economic conditions affect everyone’s mental health. Such unavoidable conditions bring unhappiness along with loneliness and further make you angry.

To get attention, we show anger but we forget that we become lonelier with such a rude attitude. Anger management is the only way to become happy and satisfied that also replaces your unhealthy behaviour with healthy behaviour.

Grows Empathy– Struggling with anger may cause difficulty in seeing the other person’s point of view during an outburst. Anger management can help to develop a stronger sense of empathy so that we can better understand others’ perspectives. Understanding other people’s viewpoints is an important part of diffusing anger and calmly dealing with conflict.

 Stronger Bonds– In case of anger issues, we may lash out at people we love during an outburst. We may also avoid interacting with our loved ones in an effort to stop us from hurting our friends and family. Developing anger management skills can strengthen the bonds between loved ones by controlling hurtful outbursts and fostering healthier communication.

 Better Self-Understanding – It allows individuals the opportunity to learn more about the cause of anger and its triggers. The way we think, process emotions, and interact with others often stems from past experiences. Allow yourself some insight into past experiences and trauma that may be the root of anger, anxiety, and fear. Once those connections are recognized, you can work to resolve the past experiences and move forward.

 Better Judgement -Anger often leads to poor decisions and impulsiveness. Managing it can help to build the skills necessary to manage anger and other emotions. This will also allow having more control over our actions and decisions. Ultimately it leads to better judgement at times of decision making or passing the views to others. It leaves you with a self-satisfaction of understanding the situation where someone has got stuck. Moreover, with a cool mind, you come up with solutions rather than pinpointing the faults only.

Builds Communication Skills –Persons struggling with anger issues tend to have underdeveloped communication skills, and lack the ability to communicate clearly, calmly, and assertively. In a result, they convey their feelings aggressively and experience frustration when others are not receptive to their attempts to communicate. Anger management can help develop stronger communication skills so that we can express ourselves in a healthier way.

Stress Reduction -Greater stress management is a direct by-product of anger management as it often causes less frustration when we learn how to communicate in a better way. In turn, this makes it easier to calmly deal with situations that would’ve previously resulted in angry, stressful outbursts causing great damage to your life as well as your health.

Conclusion – Just a step ahead towards personality grooming with controlled anger issues can make life easy and peaceful. Inculcating a self-controlled attitude can benefit not only us but also the people around us. A calm and relaxed environment leads to a better social life full of happiness and satisfaction; makes us better human beings having a positive and broad outlook. Hence, try to behave peacefully to get peace of mind and let the world get rid of unnecessary disputes. Also, learn to value and respect others instead of yelling at them if you want the same in return.