How to be more confident
BOOSTING SELF CONFIDENCE TO FEEL SPECIAL
Once we realize our strengths, we gain confidence. But losing our confidence makes us feel inferior to others. Self-confidence is one of those attributes that helps us to take our stand in all odds of life. It supports our emotions to cope with the fears within us. Fear is what halts our growth in all the fields of life, makes us sick of our capabilities, creates hurdles to achieve our goal.
The only remedy to treat this fear is to regain the lost confidence in us and feel extraordinary. To break through the wall of fear and come out on the other side, we’ve to strengthen our confidence now, so that our first success can fuel further successes. Some of the remedies to regain confidence are discussed here to help my readers achieve their goals.
Take this attribute on priority. We can’t achieve anything in the course of life unless we have self-esteem. It’s nearly impossible to make time for our dreams, break free from the traditional mold, and truly be ourselves if we have low self-esteem. Self-esteem impacts our decision-making process, our relationships, our emotional health, in fact, our overall well-being. It also influences positive views to understand our potential and hence we may feel inspired to take on new challenges.
This seems like such an obvious one, but it’s amazing how much difference proper grooming of our personality can make in our feelings of self-confidence and for our self-image. There have been days when I turned my mood around completely with this one little thing. For say, if we dress nicely, we feel good about ourselves.
We feel successful and presentable and ready to tackle the world. Now, dressing nicely means something different for everyone. It doesn’t necessarily mean wearing an expensive outfit but could mean casual clothes that are nice looking and presentable.
Be optimistic and stop being a pessimist-.
One of the things I learned in my little practical life is to replace negative thoughts with positive ones. I believe in changing negativity into positivity to make great things happen. We must learn to be aware of our self-talk, our thoughts about ourselves and what we’re doing.
I imagine that a negative thought is like a bug, that should be caught on time to be stomped (mentally of course) and squashed. Kill it. Then replace it with a positive one to make our life easy and beautiful in the years coming ahead.
Know your principles and live them–
What are the principles upon which our life is built? Don’t know, here comes the trouble, because our life will feel directionless in that case. For myself, I try to “Live my Passion”. Now, think about your principles in life. You might have them but perhaps you haven’t given them much thought. So, this is the best moment to think and rethink your principles and follow them aptly to get desired outcomes and make life fruitful.
Becoming more competent is something that motivates us to do extraordinary tasks to prove our potential. And how to do that? By studying and practising. Just do small bits at a time. If we want to be more competent in any of the interesting fields, for example, a writer, don’t try to tackle the entire profession of writing all at once. Just begin to write.
The more we write, the more competent we feel. Start with some Journal, blog, short stories, or some freelance writing. Set aside at least 30 minutes a day to write (for example), and increase the practice hours to increase your competency.
Set a small goal and achieve it–
People often make the mistake of cutting the cards, and then when they fail, they get discouraged. Instead, play the cards for something much more achievable. Set a goal that can be achieved, and then achieve it and most importantly feel good about what little is achieved. Now set another small goal and achieve that. The more small goals we achieve, the better we’ll be at it, and the better we’ll feel. Soon we start setting bigger (but still achievable) goals and achieving those too.
Focus on solutions rather than worrying about problems–
Avoid being a complainer all the time, instead focus on solutions. Changing our focus is one of the best things we can do to gain our confidence and further enhance the better opportunities for our careers. We should stop finding faults in our personality just because others say so. We should try to prove that shortcoming as a positive aspect of our nature.
Empower the knowledge–
Empowering ourselves, in general, is one of the best strategies for building self-confidence. There are many ways to do that, but knowledge is one of the surest ways to empower ourselves. Becoming more knowledgeable means becoming more confident and we can become more knowledgeable by doing research and studying. Of course, the Internet is a great tool, but so are the people around us, people who have done what we want. Reading books and magazines also open new dimensions of success in life.
I must end my suggestions here so that we can get some time to think over these attributes to be adopted or not in course of becoming a better person. I hope that at least some of us would find some visible changes in our personality after the time we read this article again and again. I just want to change the scenario as well as the society around us in an improved way where we should first learn to respect ourselves and then the people around us.
“Changing our perception is better than changing others for one changes, the whole itself completely changes towards a new dawn of the brighter and warmer world. ”